Where does shame come from…?

I venture to guess there are innumerable words that would answer the question… what is the source of shame? Let’s explore one trail of thought… The word abuse literally means to use an object for a purpose for which it was never designed. This definition is just as accurate when applied the inappropriate treatment of another human being.  Damage and brokenness can leave an individual with much rejection and heartache, and can be left drug dependent… alcohol dependent… codependent on unhealthy relationships and simply unstable in various ways with every reason not to succeed in life. 

It’s not the “You’re not the same person I met few years ago.”But,It’s the “You’re not the person I thought you were.” that creates a divide between you and another individual. Unfortunately as selfish as we are innately, we tend to believe that we can read minds and assume we know what others are thinking, feeling, or planning to do. To whom does this behaviour or manner of thinking benefit? 

I realise there is so much more to offer at this topic but I don’t want to be redundant…. or a dead horse. Ha, see what I did there. Ok now really. I think this point, we have to address what’s on the flipside of shame. As far as I could see the opposite of shame is love and more love. 

Love will sustain, provide, it will not cease… love protects, always hopes, and still believes even when we don’t. Love provides arms to hold us and does not fail, not true love. 

My heart… at times is twisted and heavy and I can’t turn back to what was once comfortable, I find nothing greater than love. Love is here and alive! Love provides a place for each of us to try and fail and try and succeed as well as a place to be celebrated for who we are as individuals not just for what we can do… In this, we look to the cross…

Through the cross, Jesus embraced personal sacrifice for the sake of others. This is a key to personal evangelism and loving all. When we follow Jesus and take up our cross, we learn to embrace personal inconvenience and sacrifice for the sake of others just like He did. Nothing about this life promises comfort other than the Great Comforter…


Let Love Reign 

The two greatest commandments are great because they are central to what human existence is all about. Everything we say and do is governed by them. Today, and every day, therefore, let love reign. Letting love reign is not an easy concept but I think it is one many desire to do either in name or in true desire without action behind the want… 

Sometimes God allows things to happen that we may not like or understand and sometimes people do things that wound us or hurt us in some way. He doesn’t cause the pain but he does not take away human will. We are all familiar with this situation of life.  However, I can say this emphatically with personal passion…no matter what happens to us – trials, troubles, tribulations, offenses, hurts, wounds – we should not cease to love.

This is not necessarily a posting I want to make. I would like to say we can seek justification by our own hand and hold grudges and find retribution in the pain of others that have hurt us… But those are lies. 

According to Jesus, love of Father and neighbor are the greatest commandments (Matthew 22:36-39). Indeed, He said that “‘All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments’” (Matthew 22:40). In other words, every other commandment is in some way a commandment to love. 

Jesus told us, loving Father and neighbor are the greatest commandments (Matthew 22:36-39). Indeed “All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments” (Matthew 22:40). Basically…every other commandment…in some way is a commandment to love. 

Here are four characteristics of love:

  1. Love bears all things and The one who truly loves the Father and neighbor is not be easily offended or hurt. let me be the first to say for me this is hard… This is really hard. I think this is challenging because we have feelings and as humans we think those feelings are important to not only us but should be important to those that love us, And we most often hold those who love us to the same standard that we hold ourselves in regards to how we treat others and how we expect them to treat us or consider us. I must say this is a real challenge. 

2. Love believes all things, which is to say believe the best about the Father and neighbor. Not that we are ignorant enough to believe everything that comes out of another person’s mouth but we believe the best in others and look for the best in others and celebrate others. I look at this as we try to think positively until someone proves us wrong in an instant but continue with that trend each time despite past behaviors. Not that we are ignorant to past behaviors because as a therapist I have been top past behavior predicts future behavior which is a challenging feature to get beat beyond when it comes to my integrating a Christian life approach in work and socializing. Respecting Father acknowledges no wrong motives in his word and His deeds and desires towards his children. Respecting our neighbors requires us to deny ourselves and put away any over the suspicion toward their motives, words, and actions. I am certainly not saying let’s all be naïve and walk blindly through life as if everyone is being truly honest and forthcoming in all they say and do, of course not we should be wise but yet we should be gentle. We should be gentle and both words and actions. Our gentleness should shine through our honesty and compassion.

3. Love hopes all things… with respect for the Father, this means that love trus Him to fulfill all his promises made to us in His word. His word never changes. We must continue to believe he will bring his glorious plan for redemption to complete fulfillment. Now considering the respective neighbors… this means Love expects the best of people and hopes for the best for others. Let’s not forget the hardest part love believes continually without falter that others can always change. There is always hope for change in another person with the help of the Father. 

4. Lastly… Love endures all things. This is hard. I think we can all agree this is hard. We have all been hurt we have gone through so much as humans in this broken world. The world does not generally handle us a basket of roses and a yellow brick road with beautiful music as a soundtrack back drop. That yellow brick road does not come smooth and billowing. Life is filled with Rocky pothole filled roads that twist intern filled with briars and things that trip us and wild animals that jump out of the bushes. Sometimes those wild animals are in the shape of other humans and that creates deeper pain, wounds, and scars especially if it’s someone we love and trust. If we are to truly love the Father and our neighbor as the Scripture tells us to then we can never give up on either one of them not the Father and not our neighbor. This sort of means if we believe one part of scripture we believe it all, or we believe none of it. We can also not give up on love, It’s not an option. 

No matter what happens to us on this old muddy ball called earth we know the end of the story… We know how the book ends… We are the victors. We also know to expect trials, struggles, and tribulations. I think I’ve heard those three words my entire Christian life. Not my entire life but my entire life as a Christian. Struggles I get, trials are you quite two larger scale test, but tribulations what are we talking about here… I think I’ll take time in a future post to address that, At least my opinion of what tribulations are for us. Needless to say back on the subject of love endures all things, we can most definitely expect hurts, pain, Woodlands, stabbing words, backbiting, gossip, people who abandon us, rejection, isolation, and a whole host of other things that we all go through because of the human condition… But through those things we are not granted permission to give up on or stop practicing love. I intentionally chose the word practicing because I think we walk that out daily I think as humans we are learning to love more and more as our Creator loves. 

It has now become my opinion that we should not be people who love but people of love. A person of love endures all the hurts and pains of life and presses forward and continues to live a lifestyle of love. I want to reiterate what I said at the beginning…The two greatest commandments are great because they are central to what human existence is all about. Everything we say and do is governed by them. Today, and every day, therefore, let love reign.

I hope this has spoken to you today as it has to me, please give me your feedback on the topic I think it something we all feel deeply about and are too afraid to share because of all the hate in the world and the smaller numbers that seem to be so loud concerning their disdain and hate towards gentleness kindness and compassion because of whatever reason they have been hurt and they are hurting. The old saying goes, misery loves company, so I will add to that let’s break that cycle now. 

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

‭-‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬ ‭NIV‬‬.    http://bible.com/111/1co.13.7.niv

Watch Your Toes! 

The following is an excerpt and thoughts that really got me this morning and I had to share it with you! Maybe you are far more spiritual than myself but it is an eye opener for the rest of us mere mortals. Thank you Jesus for your living Word! 

Have you prayed and prayed, and waited and waited, and still you see no evidence of an answer? Are you tired of seeing no movement? Are you at the point of giving up? Then perhaps you have not waited in the right way, which removes you from the right place—the place where the Lord can meet you.

“Wait for it patiently” (Romans 8:25 [emphasis added]). Patience eliminates worry. The Lord said he would come, and his promise is equal to his presence. Patience eliminates weeping. Why feel sad and discouraged? He knows your needs better than you do, and his purpose in waiting is to receive more glory through it. Patience eliminates self-works. “The work of God is this: to believe” (John 6:29), and once you believe, you may know all is well. Patience eliminates all want. Perhaps your desire to receive what you want is stronger than your desire for the will of God to be fulfilled.

Patience eliminates all weakness. Instead of thinking of waiting as being wasted time, realize that God is preparing his resources and strengthening you as well. Patience eliminates all wobbling. “He touched me and raised me to my feet” (Daniel 8:18). God’s foundations are steady, and when we have his patience within, we are steady while we wait. Patience yields worship. Sometimes the best part of praiseful waiting is experiencing “great endurance and patience … giving joyful thanks” (Colossians 1:11–12).
C. H. P.

“being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.”

‭‭Colossians‬ ‭1:11-12‬ ‭NIV‬

Meditating on this today…

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

‭‭John‬ ‭14:27‬ ‭

Love and the tough part of human connection. 

Here’s a toughy…. Love, bless, do good, and pray for those who come against you in a negative way. Wow oh wow. What a challenge this is for me. I believe I find myself more closely relating to the imprecations psalms rather than the instruction in Matthew 5:43-47. 

Love for Enemies

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[a] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that?   -Matthew 5

I don’t know about you but my human nature is to bellyache and complain when I am mistreated. I also complain to the Father when I see those living in and of the world prospering in areas I struggle. Hiwever there is no justification is to behave or speak in any other way than the Scriptures have provided us a higher standard of behavior. 

I have begun viewing these instances as potentially having nothing to do with me as an individual but more of a concern for the Father. If someone is cruel to me unjustly I have a little talk with myself reminding myself that I do not know what they are going through and maybe their personal pain is being misdirected and unrelated to whatever the situation is I am currently involved in with the person. 

Being holiday time there is a great deal of oth joy and pain in the air. Every person relates to this season from a personal perspective of previous experiences. I think it’s a good time to be reminded to love one another and reach out despite our natural instincts. The Father knows our hearts and I believe He will often work on me before He works on the invisible I am encountering,I desire to keep my heart and mind in a state I can receive direction,wisdom, and growth from Him. 

2 We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. 3 Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God? 4 Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance? 5 But because of your hard and impenitent heart you are storing up wrath for yourself on the day of wrath when God’s righteous judgment will be revealed.  6 He will render to each one according to his works: 7 to those who by patience in well-doing seek for glory and honor and immortality, he will give eternal life; 8 but for those who are self-seeking[a] and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, there will be wrath and fury. 9 There will be tribulation and distress for every human being who does evil, the Jew first and also the Greek.  -Romans 2

I realize this is a short posting but I felt the need to share these brief thoughts expedietenly… so here are my final thoughts and I look forward to your feedback… There are many justifiable stances depending on your perspective concerning this topic. It is upsetting to me, and my still learning heart, when the Father blesses or appears to bless someone I see doing wrong things or living fast and lose for lack of a better description but in my patience for the goodness of the Father I pray not only for my own heart but for the heart of my enemies. I find the word enemy funny here, because it causes me to think villain, such as a hero in a sort and an individual opposing the hero being his or her enemy. I do not have an enemy of this sort at least not to my knowledge. Our Lord continually said Father forgive them for they know not what they do… So maybe my enemy is not only myself but also anyone that hurts me. 

I pray continually…

Teach me to do your will, for you are my God! Let your good Spirit lead me on level ground!    Psalm 143:10