Sometimes the things that you’re looking for, you can’t see with your eyes. You have to see them with your heart. –Peter Pan
There is so much about being human that we resist understanding through compassion. But its the only way . Collective compassion.
The world would be a better place if more people understood that. So many people these days feel they have something to prove or must one up the “other guy”. It’s not necessary.
It seems to me those who believe they have something to prove never succeed in doing so… Sadly the continue to try often by taking others down as they trudge that lonely path. We all have something unique to us and special to contribute in this life.
One of the most potent lies the enemy (and we all have an ambiguous enemy whatever name you like to call it by) made me believe for years was this, “You are all alone.” This was the furthest thing from the truth! I did not have my ideal set up in relationships and could not identify what I had so I believed I was alone. I felt alone, I isolated myself and I had up borders like the Berlin Wall surrounding my heart and keeping people at arms length or further for so long. This effort was all in vain. My attempt was to protect myself from hurt and more pain. To protect myself from being taken advantage of or used and tossed aside… I was successful in doing that but I was most successful in loneliness.
For the most part no one knew this, I was the clown, the one to make people laugh and the one people called when they needed something but inside I was dying over and over like Groundhog Day everyday I would wake up and instead of reliving the same day I would relive sacrificing myself on an alter set up to pay homage to protection from the pain of failed relationships. Nothing good came of all this hard work.
If only they’d look closer, they’d find out there’s so much more to me.
I became a chameleon. I was hurting but for some reason I believed I MUST run through my day with not only a smile on my face but also I must put a smile on others faces… Or else? I don’t know maybe it was a distraction tactic or a way to feel less broken.
I have recently encountered three suicide a in my own personal 6° of separation. One of those 3 was a very kind man that I thought a great deal of… I knew he was hurting deeply but did not know what to do other than to keep my patience and show him love. Unfortunately all the love in the world being shown to him was not enough, he did not love himself. He is gone now. I know everyday people choose the permanent solution to their problems and this has created a sort of twisty painful kind of void.
I obviously did not permanently end my pain but found other means to help myself. Others invested in me and I invested in me. So let me beg you, reach out to others… Don’t be self centered. We are self centered people… Not on purpose but by default. I challenge you to make a conscious effort to change someone’s day and in-effect you may be changing someone life.
Surrendering your need to be validated and approved of at all times, your ego, your control over things in life that are ultimately uncontrollable, and doing all this with the motivation of loving the imperfect human is truly the greatest thing we can do for each other.