Everyone that drives vehicle or rides shotgun has been blinded by an oncoming vehicles high beams at one time or another! I think we can all agree it is very frustrating and at times dangerous especially if there are multiple incidents in a row!
There are so many life applications in this scenario but, for times sake, I am going to explore only one!
This occurrence everyone encounters when traveling on the road at dark can be frustrating to say the least and creates all manner of responses. Road rage often ensues, and at the mildest for a driver at least thinks a rude comment if not voicing said thought. Not only does oncoming bright lights frustrate a driver but those drivers tailgating you with high beams engaged is enough to cause an abrupt brake check or a minor fist shake!!! The nerve of those rude drivers!
It is possible a driver with high beams on is unaware at times they are bright lighting you and then again it is possible some drivers, just down right do not care! Exactly how hard is it to reach over and click off those high beams when nearing another motorist? It’s easier than texting and driving, looking through a playlist, and/or calling your mom!
In life, as we muddle through our daily routine we often become lackadaisical in our encounters with other “people”, say in the grocery store, or at the bank. We have our high beams of focus on and extend no courtesy to our fellow man. It used to be both habit and respect to open a door for a women or your elders and now it seems to be first come first serve, self service, and “oh, they are NOT beating me to the front of the line”! What would happen if we lived int he moment and became more aware of those we encounter? Everyone is struggling, in some form, and struggles and pain are all relative to the individual experiencing them. Be kind!
A smile from a stranger, a cheesy joke, or a kind gesture could change someones entire day! However running into someone with your buggy, dashing to a door to get in before an elderly couple can slow you down, and having an attitude when speaking with a costumer service individual can change a persons entire day as well… not in a good way. The human condition is to be in survival mode, to step on those you can to get ahead, and to look out for number one but such behavior is a choice! Come on don’t tell me you are incapable of re-engaging your brain and your heart and stop running on autopilot to check off your to do list!
“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”
“The worldly man treats certain people kindly because he ‘likes’ them: the Christian, trying to treat everyone kindly, finds himself liking more and more people as he goes on – including people he could not even have imagined himself liking at the beginning.” -C.S. Lewis
I suppose a list of examples of kind acts or deed is appropriate:
1. Give up your seat and SMILE
2. Hold the door for someone and SMILE
3. Hug someone
4. Make someone new feel welcome
5. Have a positive conversation with a stranger
6. Let someone in front of you in the checkout line
7. OFFER YOUR CHANGE TO SOMEONE STRUGGLING TO FIND THE RIGHT AMOUNT
8. Tell someone how well they are doing and let them know you notice their hard work
9. Help someone in need even if your busy
10. Really listen to someone needing to talk
Just a final thought… being inconsiderate for others is becoming the “norm” in our society. How sad. Consider your own life… how often do you do anything outside of your routine? Does it involved anyone else? Does it cost you anything? Does it bring something positive to someone other than yourself? Don’t be the one that even you complain about… the one who opens the door and steps in front of a women or someone older, or the one in such a hurry to get to their business they don’t mind cutting someone else off to get in line first. This behavior sounds minor but it is draining, it creates tension, and takes peace away leaving us cranky. No one I have ever met has a desire to be a negative but inconsiderate behavior is wounding on a basic humane level, and provokes rudeness.
I am not under any delusion that all inconsiderate behavior can be stopped or living with magical thinking that one day there will be peace brought to all mankind through simple acts of kindness. We as individuals have control over our personal reaction to inconsiderate people and reframe from contributing rudeness to the situation.